They really do work: Repeating Positive Affirmations many times a day, and sending I Love Yous to your heart all the time. I have Positive Affirmations that I wrote about myself as successful Sobrietist streaming in a slide-show on my laptop, and printed-out on my wall. I read them many times a day, even when I'm not feelin' it. I say "I Love You" to my heart all the time.
Even when your ego makes you feel, "This isn't working, this is boring, this is stupid, this is useless, I'm tired of this, I don't need this," etc., Keep Going. Keep saturating your ego and your subconscious mind with Positive Affirmations and Love, until the ego quiets down, and the changes come that you want.