Of course mine (my choice) was about drinking!
This was a private exercise not shared, as all the exercises are.
I want to share it with You!
Wise Self Gladly Speaks
1) Identify and invite your loudest inner critic
(Perfectionist, Pusher, etc.)
Pusher (and
Perfectionist).
See the Pusher
and Perfectionist join you and sit in a chair in a different part of the room.
2) Ask this critic to reveal its list of concerns and
complaints. Calmly take notes. Ask clarifying questions if you don't
understand.
"You can't
drink moderately. You are an alcoholic. Your cravings and desires to drink up
to 7 drinks are too strong to deny. You are a writer and writer's drink too
much. Drinking too much is the only way you can feel satisfied. Drinking too
much is the only way you can either celebrate something properly or escape from
something properly. I Want More Booze! I Want Lots And Lots Of Booze And Pot! I
Demand As Much Alcohol And Pot As I Want And Choose!"
3) Thank, honor and acknowledge this critic for all it
has done for you.
Thank You! Thank
You Pusher/Perfectionist! Because of YOU I GET to be a drinker! When I was
always told by CultAA that I couldn't! And thank you for keeping me on my toes
and aware of how diligent and careful I must be so that I do not spiral out of
control---which I am NOT doing! And thank you for reminding me about the
incorrect way I have always looked at myself so that I can better learn how to
integrate you into my soul! And thank you for loving me the only way you know
how to! And thank you for never leaving me! And know that I will never leave
you either! Know that you are not going away! You are integrating into a better
part of me/us!! I Love You! And Honey, SEE and KNOW and FEEL that I and my
Inner Wise Self are now in charge!!! So YOU get to R E L A X at long last!!! :
)
4) Give this critic a new job or assignment.
Your new job,
my Beloved Pusher/Perfectionist, who I shall name "Push," is Just B R E A T H E, Have Fun, Enjoy The
Ride With Me As A Moderate Drinker, 0-3, sometimes 4, rarely 5 (for now, later
I may tap it down!) : ) WANT that; that
is your Phenomenal New Job! LOVE being a moderate drinker! Crave it! Desire it!
THIS is Your New Job, my Love! This Is A
VERY IMPORTANT AND POWERFUL (yet fun and relaxing!) JOB FOR YOU! And I NEED You
and I NEED Your Help! : ) And TOGETHER the two of us will grow stronger and
stronger and more powerful and much happier and much healthier! : D REMINDER:
If You/I Don't Achieve This I Will Have To By Choice Quit Drinking Altogether!
5) Transform and reframe that list of concerns and complaints
and control and demands of that Pusher/Perfectionist. You will arrive at the
Marvelous Messy Middle! The feelings and thoughts of the critic will be there
but you won't be at one extreme or the other, you'll be in the middle. In other
words, the feelings will be manageable.
A list of how
I've done it beautifully.
I've already done it
again and again and again, as you clearly know: moderate drinking! I drink 0-3 drinks often! I'm a
healthy drinker! I'm free from alcoholism! I'm strong! I'm Powerful! I easily
control my behavior! I Am A B.I.T.C.H! = Babe In Total Control of Herself! :D
It's a myth that all writers drink too much and that belief in the present is a
belief from the old paradigm! Writers today take very good care of themselves!
Like SARK! And are into self love and self nurturing! And So Am I! ....And as you also know, I always have and always will use medical cannabis sparingly the days I imbibe in it. : )
